Unspoken rules of dating

Expect to split the bill, but accept if the other party offers to pay for the whole thing.

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So I opened myself to the dating world: hesitant, not really all in, but at least open to it.

I quickly learned that there are a whole lot of unspoken rules to dating and sex these days. And as much as you’ll hear me say, “I’m too old for this shit,” I am gradually accepting that these so-called rules exist and those of us in the dating world are actually following them for some bizarre reason.

Asking for permission to take someone’s daughter on a date? Social stalking is one hundred percent acceptable in modern dating. So as soon as you are out of their presence, you pull out that phone and fire up a number of social platforms and start digging.

Within minutes you can check a few platforms and have a full understanding of who that person is, what they are about and if things will work out.

But now that cuffing season is officially over and spring has sprung, it’s a good time to establish some ground rules, and air out some basic do’s and don’ts. If they’re looking to get laid, they put out a thirst trap, out come the dog-filter Snapchats, the subtly sexual ‘mood’ posts and late-night ‘me rn’ selfies. Wait too long and the match loses the initial surprise and energy.

I asked a bunch of men and women, straight and gay, some questions about how they behave when dating online. Overall, men didn’t seem to care what they post, their profile pics or what women put, when they’re on dating apps they’re simply “on safari”. There’s also an attraction to assertiveness.” Said one of the guys I asked. Other than finding out who each other’s mutual friends are and where their aunt went on holiday last year.

I am fiercely independent, so being single again actually didn’t bother me so much.

Being a single mom wasn’t high on my list, but being without someone in my bed, … That lasted maybe three months—the not wanting someone in my bed.

Modern dating has little to nothing to do with the old fashioned movies where guys buy flowers on the first date, ask you out via phone, and introduce themselves to your parents like perfect gentlemen.

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